Gray Hair, Cosmetic Surgery - Who's Your Daddy?
Posted by Patricia at 4/24/2009 8:03 AM 
Categories: Friday - Free For All
Tags: family Susan Boyle Savvy Style at Bella Figura USA life cosmetic surgery relationsips
Categories: Friday - Free For All
Tags: family Susan Boyle Savvy Style at Bella Figura USA life cosmetic surgery relationsips
It's Free For All Friday - and I'm feeling it's time for a smack-down! And today's topics: makeovers - cosmetic surgery - and spouses!
Every morning I turn on The Today Show.
What was one of the first topics this morning? The "makeover" of Susan Boyle, the now
famous Scottish lady with the knock-out voice. Well, what was described as a makeover seemed to consist of eyebrow grooming and a new haircut and color job. Not anything drastic - but what a difference!
I think back to a post written last year - Gray Hair, I Say No - about how the easiest, fastest, most cost effective way to take years off your appearance is getting rid of the gray. Did you see Susan with the new hair? Talk about proving my point. I'd heard a number of comments about how old she looked for 47. Well, the color job makes her look YEARS younger. And when Meredith Viera heard what sounded to her like criticism for what Susan did; she leapt to her defense with words along the line of, "Why not? She can doll herself up. Good for her!" And the choir says, "Amen."
It's not like she went out and did an Extreme Makeover. Did you ever see that show? The title wasn't deceptive; the makeovers were EXTREME. Which brings me to the second and third topics - cosmetic surgery and spouses.
Now, I've said before regarding cosmetic surgery - I have no problem with it. It's a personal decision - nobody else's business - and if you go into it with a healthy mindset (understanding that it WON'T fix any problems) - are old enough to make a wise, informed decision (I'm not for teens doing it) - and if you can afford it (a big deal nowadays) - then no problem.
But another angle came up this week during a discussion with girlfriends. What if your spouse is opposed?
Not only opposed; but what if he says something like, "Well, I won't pay for you to have anything done."? As Ricky Ricardo would say - aye yi yi - yi yi!
Now, the friend who brought this up was exaggerating - and exaggerating for great comic effect with a hilarious side story about all the $$$$ she was spending on anti-aging beauty products. And as I know her husband, I also know he's much too considerate, not too mention WAY to smart and savvy to tell his lovely wife, the mother of his children, that he woudn't fork over the dough.
But I thought back to 15-16 years ago, and another woman. She was very attractive, probably 12-13 years older than me - the age when many women start thinking about a little nip or tuck.
And this is what she said, "Dave (name changed) has already told me that if I want a facelift, or anything else done, I'm going to have to go get a job and earn the money to pay for it myself; because he won't pay for it."
The woman telling me this had been married to the husband for 20+ years, had followed him all over the world supporting him in his career, had brought up two lovely children, managed their beautiful home, catered to him...
Oh, and a word about the husband: he had a thing for sports cars. And when I say he had a thing for them, I don't mean he admired them - I mean he bought them, owned them. Hm... So, let me get this straight: this guy can write a check for a 70K car, but turn around and tell his wife that she can't spend any $$ on something she wanted?
Boy - in my house that would be like firing a shot over the bow! You won't pay for it? Since when did our money become your money alone?
Maybe it's all about the presentation. What if the husband had said: Gosh honey, when I married you I thought you were the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen, and I still think that today. I don't understand why you think you need anything done. I think you're still the most gorgeous woman around.
That makes the wife feel good - and the husband look like a hero. But to treat her in such a condescending, patronizing manner, i.e. I won't pay for it. As though she were the child, and he's the parent?
And what was my response? Raised eyebrows. I said nothing; oh yeah, had to bite my tongue practically in two - but thought it wiser to keep mum.
So, what do you think about this? Who's your daddy?
Every morning I turn on The Today Show.
What was one of the first topics this morning? The "makeover" of Susan Boyle, the now
I think back to a post written last year - Gray Hair, I Say No - about how the easiest, fastest, most cost effective way to take years off your appearance is getting rid of the gray. Did you see Susan with the new hair? Talk about proving my point. I'd heard a number of comments about how old she looked for 47. Well, the color job makes her look YEARS younger. And when Meredith Viera heard what sounded to her like criticism for what Susan did; she leapt to her defense with words along the line of, "Why not? She can doll herself up. Good for her!" And the choir says, "Amen."
It's not like she went out and did an Extreme Makeover. Did you ever see that show? The title wasn't deceptive; the makeovers were EXTREME. Which brings me to the second and third topics - cosmetic surgery and spouses.
Now, I've said before regarding cosmetic surgery - I have no problem with it. It's a personal decision - nobody else's business - and if you go into it with a healthy mindset (understanding that it WON'T fix any problems) - are old enough to make a wise, informed decision (I'm not for teens doing it) - and if you can afford it (a big deal nowadays) - then no problem.
But another angle came up this week during a discussion with girlfriends. What if your spouse is opposed?
Not only opposed; but what if he says something like, "Well, I won't pay for you to have anything done."? As Ricky Ricardo would say - aye yi yi - yi yi!
Now, the friend who brought this up was exaggerating - and exaggerating for great comic effect with a hilarious side story about all the $$$$ she was spending on anti-aging beauty products. And as I know her husband, I also know he's much too considerate, not too mention WAY to smart and savvy to tell his lovely wife, the mother of his children, that he woudn't fork over the dough.
But I thought back to 15-16 years ago, and another woman. She was very attractive, probably 12-13 years older than me - the age when many women start thinking about a little nip or tuck.
And this is what she said, "Dave (name changed) has already told me that if I want a facelift, or anything else done, I'm going to have to go get a job and earn the money to pay for it myself; because he won't pay for it."
The woman telling me this had been married to the husband for 20+ years, had followed him all over the world supporting him in his career, had brought up two lovely children, managed their beautiful home, catered to him...
Oh, and a word about the husband: he had a thing for sports cars. And when I say he had a thing for them, I don't mean he admired them - I mean he bought them, owned them. Hm... So, let me get this straight: this guy can write a check for a 70K car, but turn around and tell his wife that she can't spend any $$ on something she wanted?
Boy - in my house that would be like firing a shot over the bow! You won't pay for it? Since when did our money become your money alone?
Maybe it's all about the presentation. What if the husband had said: Gosh honey, when I married you I thought you were the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen, and I still think that today. I don't understand why you think you need anything done. I think you're still the most gorgeous woman around.
That makes the wife feel good - and the husband look like a hero. But to treat her in such a condescending, patronizing manner, i.e. I won't pay for it. As though she were the child, and he's the parent?
And what was my response? Raised eyebrows. I said nothing; oh yeah, had to bite my tongue practically in two - but thought it wiser to keep mum.
So, what do you think about this? Who's your daddy?
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